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Why do parents expect the older child to help the younger child more than they help the younger child?

Published by admin on March 29, 2011

The older child is 15-16. The younger is 12-13. The younger child is going through a lot of problems with her friends, social pressure, arguments, etc. She goes home and ask her older sister for advise on how to deal with that situation. The older child has no idea on how to help her. The parents know about that. They say to the older child "If your sister has a problem, you should be able to help her. You are older. It is your responsibility." I disagree. It is the parents’ responsibility to help the younger child, not the older child’s responsibility. They expect the older child to do their job while they as parents NEVER know or ask what they younger child is going through in life, school, etc. The parents are home every night and act like they don’t care that they younger child has problems and expect the older child to do their job. Why do parents do that?

i believe the older child should help the younger one but it is not his/her responsiblity since they still have parents. But in this situations i see no difference in thier age, they are of same age bracket.one thing is that every child emulates the xter of the older siblings at home.However every parents should learn to ask how well their kids behvave both in school and outside school thats is why they are called parents. they should not only provide money they should show they care.that is what parenting is all about. ability to care, love and provide everything that will make the home peaceful and comfortable.

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Comments (5)
  1. getrd2go Said,

    I believe that it is the parents responsibility to care for the children.
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    mother of three

  2. adrianacruz10 Said,

    I THINK THAT YOU FOR BEING THE OLDER CHILD YOU SHOULD HELP HER OUT WITH HER PROBLEAMS AND LATER SHE WILL APRECIATE WHAT YOU DO FOR HER
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  3. claudemarnewick Said,

    it always good to have round table, where every one in the family can talk about the days good and bad happening. It is every one responsibility but more so the parents or the child is not held responsibility for wrong doing.
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  4. Kas Said,

    Some parents do it because they have no idea how to bring children up and it is a shame they are leaving the upbringing of another child to the eldest one. It is the responsibility of the parents to help the younger child that is why they are called parents for. They can’t be good parents if they expect a 15-16 yr old to cope with the problems of the younger child, if they won’t help could the older child speak to another adult so they can get help in how to help the younger child.
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  5. bunnygirl Said,

    i believe the older child should help the younger one but it is not his/her responsiblity since they still have parents. But in this situations i see no difference in thier age, they are of same age bracket.one thing is that every child emulates the xter of the older siblings at home.However every parents should learn to ask how well their kids behvave both in school and outside school thats is why they are called parents. they should not only provide money they should show they care.that is what parenting is all about. ability to care, love and provide everything that will make the home peaceful and comfortable.
    References :
    mine

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