Why would a Social Worker be so poor at parenting?
Published by admin on December 28, 2010I just wanted to know why a highly trained scoial worker (My Dad) who now teaches social working be so terrible at parenting.
For example: Shouting during an argument, it never helps and never will.
Not having a sytematyic form of punishment: being wishy washy with punishments if any are given at all.
Ignoring problems: Such as low self esteem.
If anyone can give an insite to the problem it would help.
I’ll admit he doesn’t beat me but that doesn’t mean what he does isn’t lousy.
*systematic.
These aren;t all the problems. Just a few. He also handles his anger terribly which can’t be teaching me anything good.
(and he’s got no excuse, his dad was a minister)
It is always easier to give advice to someone else than to follow our own guidelines.
Plus – that also goes back to why a person who cleans houses for a living, lives in a dirty house. Answer – they are just tired of the cleaning.
Sounds like your father deals with so many parenting issues that by the time he gets home he is just tired and directs it toward the family. Try mentioning this thread to him on a day when he has been away from the office for a few days – i.e. on a vacation or long weekend.
Best of luck to you – hope you don’t mind but you will be in my prayers.
If he his becoming violent then I suggest seeking outside help – go t o his supervisor.
well don’t put poor old dad so far up on the pedestal..lol.. humans are imperfect by design.. just nod and smile allot..its him not you..some day his imperfections will not matter.. some day you will thank me..
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It is always easier to give advice to someone else than to follow our own guidelines.
Plus – that also goes back to why a person who cleans houses for a living, lives in a dirty house. Answer – they are just tired of the cleaning.
Sounds like your father deals with so many parenting issues that by the time he gets home he is just tired and directs it toward the family. Try mentioning this thread to him on a day when he has been away from the office for a few days – i.e. on a vacation or long weekend.
Best of luck to you – hope you don’t mind but you will be in my prayers.
If he his becoming violent then I suggest seeking outside help – go t o his supervisor.
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Would you want him to treat you like a client or a son?
c’mon man… You have to realize that he is a person too. Maybe ask him about what he was doing when he was your age?
Social work is a really noble profession. The profit is much more in being a human than just selling some crap to people.
I wouldn’t psychoanalyze it too much, "low self esteem" c’mon… ya know maybe he just thinks it would break your heart to tell you what is really bugging him…
Like how would you tell your son he is acting like a jerk and not being cool?
Its not your fault but ya know it takes two to tango! and maybe you should look at your behaviors too…
just some advice. The idea is to get along, look at the best elements of your relationship… go see a ball game or shoot some pool, ask him to do something you like to do, invite him into your world more. ya know?
well good luck son. I miss my father a lot now that he is gone.
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