Parenting advise needed, plz help!!!!?
Published by admin on July 30, 2010I have 2 teenagers. My son has just become a teenager and my daughter is in college.We are very careful at home with internet, tv.All the internet is blocked by norton ( at least I think it block porn etc), daughter is away at college.
My dilemma is my son and daughter were chatting on the computer, he forgot to close the chat and left.I started using the computers and going through the chat, it is a good thing that I did, OMG, they talked about almost everything, porn,mastur…., naked pics, he sent her some pics which were in his spam and telling her he get junk mail, naky absolutely, girls, naked….omg ,porn….oh my God, how disturbing…what is going on? when I asked my son politely he replied that he is close to his sis and she told him to ask her anything that concerns him,
I have not flipped out yet, I know they are teenagers, sensible and he is just trying to figure out stuff. I told him to talk about these things to a friend, he said he doesn’t want to ( he is kind of private and shy).
My first impulse is to take the phone and the net access away from both of them.But she is grown up now and knows right from wrong and does not need me.This could be his trust in her, once he said to her that " finally nice to talk to someone who understands"
We as parents have a very open, friendly relationship with both our kids but still I think they don’t want to discuss everything with us, it is ok , I understand. I think I am making a big deal of it in my mind, am I?
Do I just let them discuss these issues and let her deal with the brother in her own way? or should we as parents butt in and give them advice.I don’t want them to end up on Jerry Springer, although they are both sensible, may be it is just part of growing up, I still see him as a kid but guess not. Why is he looking up porn, is this normal, should I let him.He mentioned in the chat that he is sick of looking at boobs and etc, Should I take away everything?
I am almost flipping out.. I feel like crying and am thinking where did I go wrong, did we do anything to provoke this?
Please let me know what to do? This is very confusing as a parent so I thought I would ask advise from someone who has been there, parent of a teens?
Help, help , please help.Should I completely trust them? thanks for reading, I will wait for any suggestions,thanks in advance for your help and taking time out to read and reply to my post.I really appreciate it.
stop prying through his private stuff ,no good will come of it and you will imagine what you want,
stop prying through his private stuff ,no good will come of it and you will imagine what you want,
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mother of 3 adult children now with kids of their own
Remember he Is A young man And He is growing Up.. He is Curious and not to mention It is that time in his life when he is Spending more time in the Bathroom (if ya know what I mean). So it Is only Natural that he is going online and finding things. As For your daughter She is just trying to be the cool big sis. As u said she is too old. I would start by putting the computer in the family room and if he wants on it he gets on it there. He should not have a computer Without supervision at his age anyhow. U need to make sure that U also set up his own log in name and have the parental controls set for his name. U can do that by clicking on the start at the bottom and typing in parental controls. Then I would tell your daughter that Your son is way to young to be on the computer looking at those things and that It is unacceptable behavior for her to endorse it. That u expect better of her.
Remember porn Is not the only thing he can see online that is bad.. there are many other things.
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Mother of a teen boy
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